Through recent years, surrogacy has become more widely available and acceptable due to technological and legal advances. But because it’s constantly evolving, people often receive misinformation about the procedure.
Sure, an experienced attorney can help guide you through all the contracts and logistics involved with surrogacy. However, if you’re considering surrogacy as an option to have a child, then it’s important to understand some common falsehoods about the process.
Surrogacy is only for the very wealthy.
When you hear that celebrities like Kim Kardashian have hired surrogate mothers, the option might not seem feasible in the slightest. Although surrogacy costs thousands of dollars, you can’t put a price on the opportunity to become a parent. Especially, if you have limited birth options due to a health condition or because you are part of a same-sex couple. Since it as expensive and priceless all at the same time, there are options for parents to apply for loans or grants to help cover the costs.
Babies share DNA with the surrogate mother.
The answer is absolutely, yes if you choose traditional surrogacy, where the biological mother carries the child. But, in a gestational surrogacy, when a surrogate mother carries an implanted embryo, the answer is almost always no.
Although the surrogate mother can pass along nutrients through the pregnancy, the placenta serves as a protective barrier and stops genetic information from passing. A slight crack in the barrier might lead to a couple transferred cells, but at the end of the day your surrogate-born child’s DNA is composed of whoever’s sperm and egg created the embryo.
I can choose anyone to carry my baby.
Many people opt to have a friend or relative carry and deliver their baby. It’s such an intimate ordeal that it makes sense to only include loved ones and leave out strangers. However, there is a strict set of qualifications that surrogates must meet — they must have had at least one pregnancy, be within a specific age range and meet various health requirements.
Even if you have a generous offer from a longtime friend and they meet all the qualifications, you should consider how your relationship might change after the fact. Maybe they come out of the procedure stronger than ever, but maybe they suffer a traumatic pregnancy complication.
Most surrogates know the benefits and dangers or the process, but it’s not a decision that either party should make without thoroughly considering the pros and cons.